Naturally women are born with verbal powers, they have the ability to say a lot of words within few minutes, a man really needs to understand this and also learn to build the capacity to tolerate offensive words when it emanates from the mouth of his partner. That’s why it’s very important for every man to build a large heart.
The previous year was quite a painful period psychologically when I saw pictures and read about many women that had gone through domestic violence, some lost their life, while some still battle with the traumatic memories of several abuses from their spouse.
When a man hears an offensive word, the first thing that occurs on the inside, is the fact that he tries to process the information just passed across via his partner, when anger arises, he doesn’t need to react immediately. The masculine nature of a man has been created in such a manner that if he punches a material or anything before him, that object is meant to bend or break most times. This nature was mainly created to defend himself from any form of attack and to also protect his partner or spouse in case of any form of attack from any adversary.
It’s inappropriate for such man to either punch or beat his wife or spouse with a ‘gift’ that has been naturally designed for his protection and that of his wife or spouse! If a man becomes angry with his wife, beating her wouldn’t change anything, rather it would only bring about damage, regret, malice, hatred, etc.
A mentor of blessed memory once taught us in a gathering that whenever someone gets you angry, never throw a punch in his/her direction, don’t even respond with any word at that moment, he said ‘’Just count 1 to 10 before you even respond! When I put it to test the first time, I realized before I got to ten anger had vanished! Fighting your spouse will only make matters go from bad to worse! As a man, it’s better you leave that environment immediately if you realize you can’t control your mind!
Some men have shared their opinion on how best other men can refuse to beat their spouse whenever they get angry, actions such as picking up a book to read, moving into the shower to cool off, leaving the house to chill at a relaxation spot on the street and also inform her as you take your leave, moving into the kitchen to make her favorite meal (Only a man who has developed a large heart can actually do this), etc.
Kindly share your own opinion about ways in which a man can control anger in other for him never to beat or punch his wife or spouse in the comment section.
NB- If you read this as a man or woman who takes delight to beat his or her spouse whenever you get angry at home or in an open environment, kindly reach out to God in prayers first and also seek help from a trusted Counselor, trusted Spiritual Mentor, or whosoever you trust deep down your heart.
Let’s save WOMEN, whoever cares for a woman, cares for a generation, whoever cares for a generation, cares for HUMANITY.